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- BEHAVIOR, Page 56Is the Gay Revolution a Flop?
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- A new book urges homosexuals to tone down and blend in
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- "The gay revolution has failed." To thousands of
- homosexuals who marched last weekend in the annual Gay and
- Lesbian Pride Day parades, the thought may be heretical, but it
- is exactly the argument put forth by Marshall Kirk and Hunter
- Madsen, two Harvard-trained psychologists, in a provocative new
- book, After the Ball (Doubleday; $19.95). As Kirk and Madsen
- point out, the revolution began 20 years ago last week in New
- York City at a gay bar, the Stonewall Inn, when for the first
- time patrons fought back against police conducting a routine
- raid.
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- The authors, both of whom are gay, acknowledge that
- homosexuals' lives have improved since then, but they say the
- victories are limited because America's fundamental attitudes
- have not changed. "The gay movement hasn't got nearly so far as
- the black civil rights movement," declared Madsen in an
- interview. "Yes, our life-style is now `public' -- in highly
- restricted urban areas -- but coast to coast, hatred and
- contempt for gays aren't far from where they were 25 years ago."
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- In fact, the majority of gay men and women still do not
- openly disclose their sexual orientation because prejudice
- remains so deeply embedded in the U.S. About 25 million
- Americans are gay, but society's institutions, from government
- to the church and the press to advertising, virtually ignore
- their existence. "America is not only reluctant to recognize
- news events or address public issues concerning gays, it also
- refuses to educate citizens on the nature of homosexuality
- itself," write the authors. Americans, they hold, continue to
- harbor distorted perceptions. Among them: people choose to be
- gay, homosexuals are kinky sex addicts and child molesters, they
- are untrustworthy and antifamily, and they are suicidally
- unhappy. Such social attitudes give tacit approval to bigoted
- behavior, from antigay jokes to violence.
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- Kirk, 31, and Madsen, 34, put much of the blame for the
- revolution's failure on gays themselves. The pair argue that
- the movement for too long was wrongly focused on sexual freedom
- and self-expression, issues that they feel have antagonized the
- public. Instead, they say, the emphasis should be on civil
- rights and fairness, concerns that appeal to all Americans.
- AIDS, which has devastated the gay community, has helped shift
- the gay-rights agenda away from liberated sex to more mainstream
- values.
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- Kirk and Madsen charge that the gay movement has been
- weakened by its insistence that self-hatred is a basic problem.
- "Learning to like yourself is an essential first step," Kirk
- told TIME, "that's all it is." It does not guarantee that
- everyone else will like you too, he notes. If gays are to
- achieve the ultimate goals of acceptance and assimilation, they
- will have to overcome America's hostility.
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- To that end, Kirk and Madsen assert, gays need to project
- an unthreatening, respectable image to the straight world. They
- advise curbing flamboyant excesses and keeping drag queens and
- butch lesbians out of the public eye. Explains Madsen: "If you
- want to stop the fire of bigotry, don't put it out with
- gasoline." The authors advocate a calculated national media
- campaign using clean-cut types, an idea they first suggested in
- 1985.
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- While praising the book's analysis of antihomosexual
- sentiment, many gays reject its arguments. Self-acceptance is
- still a major hurdle for gay men and women, critics insist. But
- they are most riled by the suggestion that gays need to tone
- down and blend in: that would slash at the heart of the
- gay-rights movement, they charge. Says Sherrie Cohen of the Fund
- for Human Dignity: "We're for embracing diversity and for
- protecting the civil rights of anyone who is perceived as
- `different.'" Toby Marotta, a sociologist in San Francisco,
- finds the book's thesis the same "homophile argument used before
- Stonewall and abandoned afterward." Some gays believe, too, that
- the conservative approach may actually encourage homosexuals to
- remain invisible; the better gays succeed in blending in, they
- suggest, the easier and more tempting it may be to hide their
- sexuality.
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- Still, most agree that a campaign promoting positive images
- of gays is a necessity. On the West Coast, the Lesbian and Gay
- Public Awareness Project has run advertisements in the L.A.
- Weekly and the Pasadena/Altadena Weekly. One of them shows a
- mother, her gay daughter and her partner embracing happily.
- Reads the headline: I'M PROUD OF MY LESBIAN DAUGHTER. In New
- York City last month, the Fund for Human Dignity unveiled a
- model national campaign that would feature gay-rights supporters
- in 60-second TV spots called "Stonewall Minutes." In one sample
- spot, attorney Thomas Stoddard of the Lambda Legal Defense and
- Education Fund declares that "the days when gay people could
- never be themselves, when gay issues were never discussed, will
- never come again." That is undoubtedly true. But most gays would
- also agree with one of Kirk's main points: "Success will only
- come when we've managed to push up and down to the other side
- the huge national rock of hatred."
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